Coffee Talks @5pm

Being after CNY, today had been a really slow day at work. There was just a tinge of “I just don’t feel like being here” kinda vibe today at the office. Which was why I asked a colleague to have coffee with me.

Sheryl has been really special to me ever since I had the opportunity to get to know her. She’s one of the few people that I know who would say “OMG, I’m so glad the holidays are over. I can’t wait to get back to work. I miss the office so much…” hahaha~~~ But that’s story for another time.

Other than our usual talks, she was talking to me about relationships and marriage this time round. She was telling me that things were smooth sailing in her relationship with her husband up until after her marriage. I am always positive in my belief of relationships, and I reply that it takes a long time to truly get to know someone, so people shouldn’t rush into marriage. She counters me by saying that many things are just different afterwards that people cannot plan for. I can’t really pretend to understand what it is like from her position cause I’ve never actually been in that situation, so I politely nod.

I told her that the relationship that I believe in is one where both parties try to find compromises with each other, because not everyone is perfectly made for each other and that’s what needs to be considered if a relationship is to carry on forward. So I said, “it doesn’t really work if only one of the party is making compromises for the other and while the other does nothing to change.”  She looked me in the eyes and replied, “but that’s exactly what love is. You love the other for who they are regardless if they feel like they want to change or not…”

She had me there. Cause I also believe that too. Maybe I need to rethink my take on all of this…

  1. Haa… maybe I need to befriend Sheryl too.

    • Franklin Liu
    • February 10th, 2017

    Well, I think she has a point – but if that was really the case, then the one day when the other person stops wanting to compromise, everything falls apart. While exciting, it doesn’t make for a stable relationship.

    If someone is willing to slap and the other is willing to be slapped – sure. But it stops being fun and games when one side changes, and I think if both sides are willing to compromise then they will be able to sail through that no problem.

    That’s my take on it anyway – I’m sure someone has written a book or did a tv show on this sometime eh… if you’re happy with the mode that

    • I know what you mean, and likewise, I too feel the same way. But that kind of love where you really really like the SO but you just can’t pin point on what it is… I think that’s the kind of love she was referring to. You wouldn’t want them to change who they are, cause that’s what makes who they are right?

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