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You’re only wanted when you’re needed…

There is one thing I don’t understand about people, about friendships. There’s no exact rule or law of how things should be dealt or handled, but lately it’s bothered me.

A rough continuum of how friendship is labeled generally goes something like this: strangers, acquaintances, distant friends, friends, close friends, BFF.
By listing out the labels of friends, hopefully you can see the picture that I’m trying to paint. Of course there are friends you can be extremely close with, then there are friends that you enjoy the company of but wouldn’t necessarily have to be in touch with them constantly. Obviously not all friends are expected to have a constant presence around you, but I feel that at least a certain level of being a close friend and more would require some effort from both to keep alive. But what really bothers me are the people who may think that they are your close friends… who does not even bother to maintain a certain level connection yet, when they finally do contact you, you know that they are after something from you.

Now of course, I do not expect that you need to be babied with your hands held in a death-like grip, or a constant surveillance on say FB to be considered a close friend. Just a general concern of care is enough, followed by a natural space for your fellow close friend actually does mean something. What really bothers me is that the people who tries to be your close friends only till the point where they get what they had come for, then they’re gone again in their busy lives.

Heck, everyone is busy at our age, but does our past memories, our travels and fun not count towards a following reply? Is it easier to just ignore all others until it’s convenient for yourself? Any attempt at maintaining a reply or relational bond require such a  stark volume of your time? Or in reality, you just do not care? Falling out, I can understand. Having no time because you get so caught up and busy, I can understand. But having nothing shared between you for some time and then approaching you out of the blue for some favour, attention, information… totally not cool!

I just wanna thank those friends who follow my blog or even bother to just say hey cause it’s a cool day. You guys are the best~


Cherry Cola

First time I’ve had Cherry Cola in my life.
You see, they don’t have it there in NZ, yet from American tv, commercials, and occasionally some comedy references etc, cherry cola gets mentioned occasionally. I know what cherry flavour taste like, but I always wondered the real taste of a cherry cola.

Well last weekend, I got just that. I randomly saw it on the shelf and I just had to try it. My response?
Mmm… it’s actually not too bad. Similar to Dr. Pepper except more… cherry. Hahah… I like it… but I probably can’t live off it…

Coke Cola Cherry flavour.

Where are all the Mr Rights???

Generally, this question is asked by many female counter-parts.
Whether they’ve been hurt, their hearts broken, their BFF’s mistreated, etc.  men are the pricks. There are no ifs, buts, or maybes. The fact that they can treat woman to the point where they are made to feel like their entire world had just been burnt to a crisp, then pissed in the ashes, and finally spat on top of the pile just to make finishing touches make men the most despicable creatures on Earth and in Hell. They are so crude and heartless, demons and flaming hound-dogs look like little fluffy bats and puppies with huge eyes and cute little smiles.

Woman ask themselves, ‘why am I such a fool’? ‘Why would I let some jackass into my life, play with my heart, and then kindly allow them to stamp on it until it’s stopped beating?’ Seriously, why can’t I find some good-looking guy who is chivalrous, friendly, and humourous like in the movies, or like my good friend Jill, or like my cousin May… etc. (you get the point) It is like, you hear these amazing stories of beautiful and romantic couples, you look around and they seem like they are everywhere… but why is it that you only meet douchebags or their close cousins, assholes.

I wouldn’t say I hear this often, but it still seem’s that this issue is prevalent in many cases. I’m not writing this post to offer woman an alternative perception on men. No. Of course not. I too see and hear it happen often. There are many guys out there who I absolutely consider do not qualify to hold relationships yet they’re the kinds of guys that are able to get the girls the easiest. I don’t understand the logic. (Being a logical person that I am.) The girls get into relationships with those kind of guys, and basically the audience sit back and watch the train wreck happen. Sometimes, close friends and family will throw popcorn and yell remarks at the screen… but sadly, we all can foresee the climax and finale. Rarely does the cool bad wolf go through a life-changing experience and then becomes the Prince Charming you may be waiting for. But these cases are RARE!!!

If I can help it, I wouldn’t want to see any of my close relatives or friends to go through those kinds of experience. So I too will shake my fists up towards the heavens and ask, ‘Where are all the Mr Rights? Where…?’
I don’t believe that it’s a matter of them not existing. I know they’re out there. I’ve met many cool, handsome guys before (who might I add were/are single) and yet, I don’t see woman hanging off of their arms and legs wherever they go. It is strange isn’t it. It’s like the girl goes out into the car markets and asks for Buick’s and Rolls Royce, then settling to buy some random car which had sparked their interest on the spot. I don’t know… sorry… I’m pretty crap at giving analogies as you can see… but my point is… why is it that they always pick the pricks, when you can smell them a mile away, then grieve afterwards. That’s a one way road to disaster.  

I am a firm believer of going to restaurants. What I mean by this is, if you want Mexican, go to a Mexican restaurant. If you want to eat Chinese food, then go to a Chinese restaurant. Okay, these are bad examples. I don’t mean to separate it by races as well. Hmm… put it this way… if you like to go swimming, then go to the swimming pools. If you like reading, then go to your local library. Sounds logical?

I know it’s not easy meeting the right person. Ultimately, it really depends on fate, luck, opportunity, locality. But basically, surround yourself with the kinds of people you like to be with. And also, you may need a lil nudge to get the boulder down the cliff.

Good luck people, and may the force be with you…

Words from Dad…

Wanted love is compassionate,
Unwanted love is frustrations…

Warranted affection is adorable, 
Unwarranted affection is harassment…

Age differences…

When I was back in primary school, I remember being in the same class as a third grader with other fellow fourth grader. Just having a year of schooling made a world of differences. The fact that they were older by “a whole year” meant that they practically knew more than me by a whole kajillion years. Well… that’s what it had seemed even if they were being dicks about everything. So generally, I mostly made friends with fellow third graders back then. It was generally the trend and I continued to make friends with people who were the same age, and actually felt closer with them as well as being able to relate a lot more than I could with the other kids that were a year older/younger than me. Through high school, it had felt like as I gained a year in school, I somehow also gained an internal sense of power and pride over the lesser years and there would be less shadows to watch out for as the seniors graduated year by year.

It had been like that till I reached University where I found that I could actually relate with other people who were either a couple of years plus/minus my own age now. I lost the sense of being categorised via years and found something that followed more closely to what you were actually interested in. I found most people who were 3+ years difference harder to connect with. There seemed to be more of a generation gap between us and it was just harder to “bond” with them. For the younger generation, it felt like they had all just jumped out of high school and had all these new themes and fads that they expected people to know. Things had varied from music, food, fashion, brands… none of which I had followed. And on the other end of the spectrum, were people who have been working for a while in the work  force and have these ‘at times’ gloomy outlook on various topics as well as being highly political and opinionated about various news and world-wide topics as well as money and economy.

I’m not exactly sure what has changed, or the exact point in time where the age perception paradigm in my head had altered and shifted, but more recently, I’ve made a few friends who are 5-10 year + or – my age, and feel that I could get along with them perfectly fine. Is it because my age tolerance has begun loosening over time? Or maybe it is because I know more about this world and am able relate to a wider spectrum of people? But because of this, I can slowly understand something that had been boggling my mind since childhood. Ever since I understood the concept of marriage, I could not understand the reasons behind why people would get married with ridiculous age differences. I could only imagine two main reasons. Either that the other half was horrendously rich or that they had found their “soul mate” which happened to not have been born in the same generation… Meh… To each their own.

But I have come to realise, sometimes there really is much more in the building of relationships as well as the kinds of things that can make people click together. Like Lego pieces and jigsaw puzzles, when they fit, it just feels totally right… no matter how odd their shapes and colours are. When they’re right… it’s totally tight!!! Yeah… (Cheesy, I know…) But this also has allowed me to understand how parents and offsprings can get closer or fall apart to/from each other as they grow up and understand more about each other. Sometimes, things like relationships, in any shape and form either feels right or not right. It can’t be forced. It just happens. It can be built, and it can also be destroyed. But I say this now, age is a relative concept. Just because someone is older/younger than you, does not mean that they have more or less experience than you, that they understand more or less than you, that they feel same or different from you. In this world, some people just love chocolate ice cream, some like vanilla, and some like strawberry ice cream. But that doesn’t mean people can’t like Hokey Pokey too… =P

Really has been too long…

As the title suggested above, it’s really has been too long since I’ve written in here. I dislike writing a post such as this as it’s more like creating an excuse for not writing in here where it probably would’ve been better to just write here in the first place.

Quite often, I do get ideas and topics I want to write about, yet I never get the “opportunity” to put my thoughts down. I still visit WordPress over the past week or so, but I never actually get anything written down here. Which is sad might I add. I have been busy however. With what? I can’t exactly answer myself. It may appear as if it is an issue of time management, or merely my lack of interest in commiting to actually writing here. But I swear… there have just been things that have been keeping me occupied =.=

Work now has become somewhat routine, so I basically show up and do whatever that has to be done or whatever that may just show or popup while at work. Home life is pretty lax… I purposely make time for home, and I generally just chill there with my grands. Weird life at this stage in my life… I guess… but I do value every moment of it. Ups and downs… but it’s still a pretty rocking experience. Sometimes I get an idea or a motivation to write here… then something pretty miniscule will get in the way. Things like going out for dinner, sleeping, having friends showing up to play sports etc.

I also hate to say this… but seeing as I have to go now to go have lunch and then to teach the kids… I have to say… till next time… hopefully I can write more…

P.S. The other reason also is cause the computer I was using before use to take 5min to load a webpage =.=
Sucks to be using old old computers =(

So maybe I should’ve gone to be a mechanic or an engineer…

Whilst surfing the web, I came across someone saying they recently did a Myer-Briggs personality test and how she had married to someone who was completely the opposite of her. The topic sparked up many memories I had from my management classes back in Uni. I still remember doing those tests, and I had I rough idea of who I was, but I had never been able to get a concrete answer and the same result each time.

Now that I understand myself a lot better than I did back then, I decided to give it a try… and this time around I was a solid ISTP.  It was solid because at first when I read through the result, I was going ‘yep, that’s me, yep and that too…’ Before I knew it, I had ticked off the entire list in the summary section and I was so amazed. They had me so spot on. I know within myself that I am exactly this kind of person. So I decided to share it with you all. The website had said:

ISTPs (The Mechanic) generally have the following traits:

  • Interested in how and why things work
  • Do not function well in regimented, structured environments; they will either feel stifled or become intensely bored
  • Constantly gather facts about their environment and store them away
  • Have an excellent ability to apply logic and reason to their immense store of facts to solve problems or discover how things work
  • Learn best “hands-on”
  • Usually able to master theory and abstract thinking, but don’t particularly like dealing with it unless they see a practical application
  • Action-oriented “doers”
  • Focused on living in the present, rather than the future
  • Love variety and new experiences
  • Highly practical and realistic
  • Excellent “trouble-shooters”, able to quickly find solutions to a wide variety of practical problems
  • Results-oriented; they like to see immediate results for their efforts
  • Usually laid-back and easy-going with people
  • Risk-takers who thrive on action
  • Independent and determined – usually dislike committing themselves
  • Usually quite self-confident

Knowing very well that this totally had me written out on paper, I clicked into what sort of careers are suggested for these type of people.

Possible Career Paths for the ISTP:

  • Police and Detective Work
  • Forensic Pathologists
  • Computer Programmers, System Analysts and Computer Specialists
  • Engineers
  • Carpenters
  • Mechanics
  • Pilots, Drivers, Motorcyclists
  • Athletes
  • Entrepreneurs

To me, all these career paths seem interesting and I can so imagine myself doing these kinds of things. Looks like I’m a bit off course on all accounts… haha…