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Modern family dinners

I’m used to it now. Working away from home means that dining usually takes place alone. It’s just easier and more convenient this way. Besides, I’m a bit short of friends in this place. But that’s another story.

When I do dine by myself, I take notice of the occupants around me. The usual stereotypes are normally all there. There’s the new lovey dovey cute couples, there are the we’ve been dating for a few years and things are kinda boring and it’s more efficient if we just communicate with each other through our phones couple, there’s the Mum who is by herself looking after the kid/kids who are yelling, screaming, screeching, and running about, there’s the happy new family with the first born toddler with the mummy and daddy, and lastly there’s the long married couple that are just dining together outside because their kids have all grown up and moved away. I’ve seen all types really and am basically just used to it all.

It was earlier tonight though that I was dining at a small dinner cafe where I saw a family. There was a mother and a father with two kids. A boy and a girl who looked to be around 5 and 4 respectively. It was only when I carefully observed them that the scene before me was just breaking my heart.

Picture this. The Dad is only his smart phone swiping away. The Mum us also on her phone swiping away. One kid was just staring at the wall beside her in blank stare, and the boy was slowly chewing away his food staring blankly forward. This continued for at least another 5min before the mother spoke something while still focused on her phone without lifting her head. I don’t think her husband made any gesture of acknowledgement, but continued to use his phone. It was in the kids faces though. They looked like they were obedient at such a young age, but there was no joy in them though. The expressions they had were like they are just sitting there drifting through life… eating what’s in front of them only because their parents had said so.

After both the kids had put down their utensils, they sat there for another 5 minutes before the mother put down her phone and asked, all finished? The kids nodded politely. The wife then motioned over to the husband that they should leave. He didn’t look up but got up while still using his phone and only put it away after he quickly finish with what he was fiddling with. The family followed quietly after they gathered their belongings and left the cafe.

I know that it’s not fair to judge from an outside perspective. But just observing on what I saw, I vow to myself that I wouldn’t end up like this family that I saw before me. Because of the convenience of technology, it is easy to blame this situation. A family dinner outside should be a joyous and interactive event. Okay, it might not need to be joyous, but it is a chance for the family to interact at some level. But because of smart phones, it felt more like a disconnect with what should be more important. Family right?

Maybe they’re just tired. Maybe they’re busy trying to finish work, or communicate important business messages. Whatever the case though… what I witnessed tonight, I will try to make sure that that would not be a reflection of what will become.

Beware of pron ads!

My Mum had just arrived yesterday and had wanted to set up my grand parent’s computer with her personal programs. Among them were Firefox and Chrome. Because of my cousins (Primary schoolers and Junior High) who install game platforms on that computer whenever they come to visit the grandparents, the computer is littered with junks, add-ons, and ads. When she opened them… it was a mess… with pop up ads flying out and re-directs for click of the mouse.
Yes… they really enjoy their free games.

It’s not because I don’t understand computers, or that I don’t care about my grandparent’s computers. (Yes, I know… it’s most likely the computer is affected with viruses, harmful cookies, and Trojans). It’s just that the first time I tried cleaning the computer when I began living with them, when my cousins come back and found out their things were all deleted, they went and re-download them all and MORE!!! Then after they left, when my grandparents wanted to use it again, whenever they would open their email account, the computer system would then first freeze and then crash… every time. I think they got pretty annoyed about that… as well as the time and money spent in fixing it in the end. I know I would be too… But since they’re their grand kids… well… they just tell me… when you get to be a grandparent, you’ll understand… HAH!!!

My grandparents only ever use the computer to check their emails. And they don’t actually do much with it other than that. So I figured, instead of trying to clean it every time, I would just leave it as it is from now on since it is still working and it works for my grandparent’s usage.

Back to the story. Since whenever you open up Firefox or Chrome, the home website is saved as some random game ad filled site. So if I did use it, I would normally type in the address of which ever site I wanted. But my Mum wanted them set to the original Google website. A lot of the settings had been altered, and I spent a good 5 mins trying to find the options/config settings page. It was so cluttered and messy, I decided to go back to my own laptop to try and see if I can find something there.

After I found it, I made my way back to my grandparent’s computer to see my Mum trying to see if she had any luck in trying to find the options. As I came across, she began to stand up and slid the mouse to me. In that flick of the moment she must’ve have accidentally clicked the mouse button and it clicked into a random popup ad. That very instant, a porn website popped onto screen and pictures of naked women in all positions and …. well I think you guys know… I don’t need to go into details…

My Mum’s natural reaction went “Uggghhh… what… what the…. uuggghhhhh….” and literally jumped back a couple steps away looking surprised and shock . The reaction was so pure and funny… I have never seen a reaction from her like that ever before. I turned around and looked back at her and thought this was absolutely priceless…

Nice one Mum… nice one…